My Story
Not a highlight reel. A lived one.
I didn’t arrive at this work because it was trendy or aspirational.
I arrived here because my nervous system demanded something different.
For most of my life, I was praised for being capable, resilient, dependable... the one who could hold it all together. And for a long time, I did. Until my body began to speak louder than my willpower.
What I eventually learned is this:
Strength without regulation isn’t strength at all. It’s survival.
The Early Years
I became a mother young.
I learned responsibility early.
I learned how to override my own needs long before I learned how to meet them.
Like many women, I was shaped by expectation:
Who to be, how to behave, what it meant to succeed, and what it cost to belong. I did what worked. I pushed through. I adapted. I achieved.
And I paid for it quietly, in my body.
The Crack
Eventually, the life I had built stopped being sustainable.
Not because it was wrong, but because it was no longer aligned with who I was becoming.
Burnout doesn’t always arrive dramatically.
Sometimes it arrives as exhaustion you can’t outthink.
As resentment you can’t ignore.
As a body that refuses to keep up with the pace your identity demands.
That was my reckoning.
And it forced a question I could no longer avoid:
What would it mean to build a life that actually supports my nervous system instead of constantly overriding it?
THE REBUILD
The work that followed was not linear or aesthetic.
It was slow. Honest. Often uncomfortable.
I began studying nervous system regulation not as a concept, but as a lived practice. I paid attention to my emotional patterns, my capacity, my energy, my limits. I unlearned the idea that healing required force.
Over time, a framework emerged, not from theory alone, but from experience:
Designed to Regulate™
A way of understanding ourselves that honors biology, energetics, lived history, and emotional truth without asking us to become someone else in the process.
Why I do this work
I don’t believe women need more pressure, more discipline, or more fixing.
I believe they need:
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Language for what their bodies are already communicating
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Permission to move at their own pace
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Containers that feel safe, relational, and real
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Support that doesn’t demand performance
My work exists for women who are done contorting themselves to survive and are ready to live from a regulated, self-led place.
Who I am Now
Today, I am a nervous system mentor, writer, and guide.
But more importantly, I am someone who knows what it costs to ignore the body, and what becomes possible when you finally listen.
I believe:
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Regulation is the foundation of sustainable success
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Healing does not require self-abandonment
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Your pace matters
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Your design matters
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You don’t need to become someone new, you just need to come home to yourself
